- How my local McDonald's could report that they are "out of Coke" as I make my order? Isn't that like the hospital sayin' they're outta band aids, or the atmosphere reporting it's out of air?
- Why my weatherman would use the phrase, "a cold front moving in", when the same breath he's also telling me that during this "cold front" movement it's going to be 96 degrees?
- How I can't seem to talk myself into having the cereal I really (reeeeeally) want at midnight: 15 because the date on the carton ended at 11:59pm? I'm fairly sure it didn't go bad in 16 minutes. But my mind refuses to listen to that logic.
Obviously, the only reasonable response to those who oppose gay marriage, (although I'm loathe to use the term, 'gay marriage', I mean, ain't it just marriage? Gay's don't 'gay pay' their bills, or 'gay put on their shoes', ya know?) ...is that when it comes to deciding who you should marry, by all means do not marry someone of the same sex.
Of course, being the 'reasonable response' doesn't preclude
In different eras prevailing wisdom and conventional thinking once dictated that people accepted that the world was flat, smoking was healthy, and that it was purrrrrrfectly civilized and proper to not allow the guy you worked beside to eat at the same lunch counter simply because of the color of his skin.
Throughout history, at times it's been the cultural norm to believe women did not have the brain power to handle heady concepts, like voting. That cocaine was good for practically anything that ailed ya, and that Catholics were out to take over the world with their general abundance of children
...All concepts and beliefs that anyone living in those times would have found that many, if not most of their peers also treated as gospel. Underscoring that simply finding comfort in like minded individuals is not synonymous with being right about an issue.
Looking at those subjects through our 2012 prism, it's easy to recognize that they have proven to be ridiculous and wrong. (New word alert: Ridicuwrong) They are cautionary examples to us today of how allowing oneself to be mired down in beliefs and opinions can create a mindset that causes people to ignore facts. Realities like: It's wrong to use any beliefs or reasoning to prohibit other law abiding citizens from fully benefiting from rights granted to you and me. Regardless of your reasoning or justifications.
And these are the facts:
If you are still holding on to negative beliefs, stereotypes and prejudices about gays, you are wrong and it's time to start letting go of your antiquated thinking.
Homosexuality is not some new fangled 21st century invention. Another lil' sumthin'-sumthin' that's been with us since the waaaaay back in the day? Answer: Bigotry. In my opinion it's one of our worst traits as humans. It's a trait that has allowed people to belittle, demean, enslave and attempt to actually extinguish other humans throughout time because of some perceived or real difference. And in every single instance the people doing the discrimination had a quote good reason unquote. Some mantra to back their stance. Loads of cronies to rub elbows with who felt the same and cheered them on. But guess what? That didn't make any of them right, or righteous. It made them stubborn. And eventually, laughing stocks skewered by history for their inability to overcome a mindset that others recognized as being ridiculous and unjust far earlier.
In many (but not enough) ways we've overcome our bigotry and granted civil rights to those who have been oppressed. I, in today's world, as a brown girl can walk into any restaurant and be seated, and cast my vote in any election.
It's unfathomable that anyone would deny the rights of someone else based solely on who someone has sex with and who they love.
Leviticus also outlines that the following are abominations:
- Body modifications & tattoos
- Bad mouthing one's parents (penalty? Death.)
- Adultery (penalty? Death.)
- Period sex
- Fabric mixing (Linen AND wool combined? Might fly with Anna Wintour, but the Bible says hell no.)
- Bacon (pork chops, snausage, cracklin's)
With so many folks use religion as their rationale for their anti-gay stance. I think it's important to be on the same page about what we're talkin' about; God-- who "makes no mistakes", who wants his children to experience his greatest gift which is love, who made sex pleasurable so that we'd enjoy it-- God who wants us not to cast the first stone and to be good to one another, to treat others as our brothers and sisters... wants you to be rude, dismissive, disrespectful and hateful towards some of his other children because of who they love?
Really? I can't be the only one who sees the irony there, right? The complete disconnect between the tolerant, inclusive, positive ideal of all religions, and bigotry and intolerance people will chose to embrace in the name of religion?
Other folks cite the 'ick factor' for their case of gay heeby-jeebies. You know those folks, the "I don't see how 'they' could do that" contingent. (Please note: Seeing a same sex couple is not a recruitment ad for you to go homosexual. If you find the thought of a person with the same bits and pieces as you a turnoff, again, Harry Potter and I recommend that you don't date people with the same bits and pieces as you.)
And really now, "do what"? Express their affection and desire for one another? (I don't understand how people can use nipple clips or cock rings, but they do. Seems like a bad and painful plan, but it doesn't ick me out. While I'm not a good candidate to lead the Nipple Clip & Cock Ring Users of America - Ohio Chapter, I certainly won't begrudge and try to take away their right to marry their favorite fellow NC&CR member.) Can't different just be different, and not bad or wrong? Can't people just be allowed to live their lives as long as it's not hurting you howthefuckever they want to?
Personally, I couldn't give a fuck who's doin' what, with who (whom? --My sincerest apologies to every one of my English teachers) in their bedroom. It impacts my life a grand total of zero. (FYI: I also don't spend any time thinking about what Asians are up to in their bedrooms. Or what the blind are doing once they close the boudoir door
I would suggest if you find yourself concerned about what any other two grownups are doing with their sex lives that you find a hobby. Immediately. (For the official record: Protesting at your local Pride parade or military funeral is not a "hobby".)
Mostly, I don't care what homosexuals are doing behind closed doors because it's none of my damn business. And I don't know about you, but I've got my hands full with shit that is legitimately my 'bidness, where would I find the time and energy to get invested in someone, anyone else's?
The time to acknowledge that gay just is, that it's not good or bad, it's simply something you are, or what you aren't-- is here. The time to get on board is now. ...Or be the last holdout to a notion that is quickly (although not quickly enough) going the way of the do-do bird and dinosaurs.
For all of the passionate feelings and opinions on the matter of gays being allowed to marry, one of the most heartfelt and compelling points was made last night by a friend of mine through her Facebook status update:
I support the 1st amendment and the freedom of religion. I may not agree with certain positions, but that is MY right.
However, Chic Fil A has donated over 2 million to politically based organizations that are fighting to deny me and my family and thousands like us, our basic rights. Live your life and do as you will, let me live mine in peace.
To my friends who proudly boasted their Chic-Fil-A pictures today, please know this. Your money did not go to free speech or religious freedoms...it went into the funding of organizations that will fight to the death to ensure I can never give my children the stability that so many of you take for granted."
Imagine being living in a land where the pursuit of happiness and justice for all is guaranteed to everyone. Well, everyone who isn't gay. ...Oh, wait. Unfortunately, there's no need to imagine. There's only a need to get past it: