- Almost 50% of all teen mothers and more than 75% of unmarried teen mothers begin receiving welfare within 5 years of the birth of their first child [Source: k].
- More than 1/4 of teen mothers live in outright poverty while in their 20's & early 30's, compared to only 7% of women who postpone childbearing [Source: e].
I never had an abortion because I never had a doctor inform me I was carrying a fetus with some horrific physical condition that would make its life unsustainable, or full of pain and invasive treatments and fixes that would ultimately serve to prolong life rather than provide any measure of a 'quality' life. Nor have I been faced with the gut wrenching decision that in order to preserve my life and/or health an abortion was the medical solution.
Never have I known I was too immature to do right by and raise a child and found myself knocked up. (Fact: There is nothing else anyone could say they were too immature to tackle that any reasonable person would push them into doing. But parenthood? That's the one we're fuckin' ok with?) Never have I been at my maxim capacity for children I can manage and retain a semblance of sanity and been faced with adding another that I know will create a personally untenable sum. Never have I not had the financial resources or familial (and friends-y based) support to make a child an unfeasible option.
I have never had an abortion. But not because I'm opposed to them. Because I've never been in a position where I felt like I needed one. I've never been in in a place where opting not to have a child was what I knew was the best decision I could make at the time, and given circumstances at play.
Well, those and that some other woman's decision on what is the best state of her uterus is none of my damn business.
While my belief system tells me that life begins when life begins, which is to say under my interpretation, at first breath (meaning a fetus/baby is a viable life when it's able to breathe and sustain life, whether on it's own, or as we're able to with the help of modern day science 'n medicine advancements, medically assisted). But that's my belief system, admittedly formed by hours and years of religion classes, tutelage in among other things this lil' ditty that seems to be pretty biblically clear on when life begins; (Genesis 2:7) And the Lord God... breathed into his nostrils the breath of life; and man became a living being. And while I should have every right to manage my body by those beliefs I should never have the right to make a decision on how another woman, walking a different life path than my experience, with her own set of beliefs and approach to life, must run her body.
Save it. I'm not here to change your minds. In fact, that's kinda the fucking point. No one should have to change their minds on this issue. People, yep, women included, are allowed to hold views that are divergent-- be it to just you or millions, and as long as it doesn't prevent you from living the way your mind (heart, conscience, religious, ethical, moral compass, whateverthehell helps guide ya) tells you to do. I swear this is true. Another truth? A rational response to such a dichotomy is you doin' you and taking care of your own business.
Related Abortion-esque BBGWorld Posts:
- It's Not That I Don't Respect Women... It's That I Don't Respect The Dumbasses You Choose To Represent You
* The elephant in the blog? Adoption. Yes, of course adoption is an option. Personally I think its a very wonderful and loving option. I just also happen to think it's not an option I want to see dictated to any woman. #HerBodyHerRules